Thinking About The Things You Experience
Negative thoughts can be very harmful to us. Traumatic events themselves affect us less than the stress and anxiety they cause. Controlling our thoughts is the best way to get a head start and move forward without the burden of guilt.
A 2013 study involving more than 30,000 people shows that the constant fixation on negative events in your life can be the root cause of the most common health problems facing humanity today. Especially the guilt that these events cause is a major culprit.
The results of this study showed that it is not what we experience in our lives that matters, but that it is the way we think about these things that shapes our psychological well-being. In that sense, acting on your thoughts can help limit guilt that we punish ourselves with.
“While we know that a person’s genes and living conditions contribute to his/her mental health problems, the results of this study show that traumatic life events are the main reason why people suffer from anxiety and depression. However, the way a person thinks about and copes with stressful events is an equally strong indicator of the stress and anxiety he/she feels,” said the study’s lead researcher, Peter Kinderman.
While self-reflection may be one of the key ingredients to living a conscious and happy life, these new findings show that ruminating or staring at negative aspects of your life and past isn’t good for you.
So while self-understanding is a way to overcome personal conflicts, it is also important to develop affection for yourself and not make yourself an enemy.
In this sense, overcoming our inner critic will help us eliminate the guilt and self-mockery we feel about the things we’ve been through, done, or stopped doing, giving us the opportunity to act in a positive way. way to think about the things that lie ahead and help ourselves with all the good things we’ve done and the values and attitudes that make us stronger.
To overcome these negative, self-destructive thoughts, it is important to first learn to recognize and discern these thoughts, as well as identify the moments when these thoughts arise in you. As we learn this, we will be increasingly able to filter these thoughts, avoid them, and even confront them with resolute comments and zero point zero percent tolerance.
On the other hand, when at some point we notice that we are thinking negatively again, when we remember that these kinds of thoughts affect us negatively, it is always better not to dwell on this for too long, not to linger too long on what happened. It is much more effective to cut these thoughts off right away and think about something else.
According to the conclusions drawn from multiple studies, cognitive-behavioral interventions can be very effective in reducing worry. In this sense, multiple studies provide evidence that treatments in which participants were encouraged to change their way of thinking or the way they react to rehashing events, their reflections on certain thoughts, and the concerns they have about them can have very positive results. to deliver.
Other studies show that affection for yourself can be associated with a greater ability to emotionally recover, taking more care of yourself, since affection for yourself is based on feeling your own dignity as a human being.
Thus, the effort to banish negative thoughts requires a heightened awareness not to listen to these thoughts, to develop feelings of affection for yourself, and to resist the instructions our inner critic gives us.
