The Difficult Decision To End Something

Sometimes we resist ending something that literally “bitters” our lives. Many of our unhealthy behaviors, relationships, or thought patterns serve only one need: to avoid immediate discomfort. We avoid confrontation with reality by withdrawing into our pain, which only seems to be therapeutic because it has become a habit.

Sometimes, however, avoiding pain can lead to disaster. We prolong relationships with people who humiliate us or become prisoners of habits that keep us from getting closer to what we want in the long run. Sometimes we need to change ourselves and other times we simply need to end something. And sometimes we have to do both.

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We need to be aware of those aspects of our lives that are no longer good for us. To determine if you’ve reached an endpoint, ask yourself the following questions:

• How often does a certain person make you feel bad? Being inundated with endless justifications and excuses from the other party is not a good sign.
• What kind of habits keep you immersed in a routine that is not suitable for achieving what you want in the short term and confronting the discomfort you are currently experiencing?
• What thought patterns cause you to be overwhelmed by neuroticism?

The price you will have to pay for not putting an end to things that demand it in time is high: it destroys your self-esteem. Sometimes it is inevitable that we will be hurt and disappointed, we cannot always control this. However, how we react when we are confronted with this pain and the person causing it is something we can control. If you continue to give opportunities or justify certain behavior, you undermine your self-esteem. You accept that you have lost control of not only what you do, but also what you will continue to do to yourself over and over again.

It’s hard to put an end to something, but imagine not doing this

It could be toxic habits or relationships that have lasted for many years and that you have allowed to consume you by constantly working against your emotional well-being and dreams. You know you are in perpetual turmoil.

It’s time to be selfish in a healthy way. Get rid of what hurts you and take your life back into your own hands… don’t continue to fight against your dignity. Continuing to deny that something has to end will do a lot more damage afterwards and you will only lose more time.

If we don’t put an end to something that is constantly crumbling, we will never find inner peace. Make short work of what should have ended shortly after it started.

Your life deserves a start whenever it is needed

It’s important to give yourself permission to start over without fear or guilt. Everything in life transforms and changes and it is the way we confront these changes that determines whether we will flourish or find ourselves in an eternal drama.

You can have many stories on your journey, but staying too long in one story than necessary hinders the healthy decision to take other paths. Continuing to repeat the same situations that cause you discomfort over and over does not only mean that you are being masochistic, but also that you are giving someone or something a power over you that should never be given away.

Time has made me understand that letting go is not the same as giving up. It is not a sign of weakness, but of strength and growth… Read more  »