Love Yourself And Let Others Love You Too

Pleasure should be brought into life as a comma in a sentence. It is essential to do things that you enjoy, to take advantage of the opportunities presented to you without thinking too much about it. Without expectations, simply with the desire to experience life. Therefore, love yourself and let others love you too.

It can be quite complicated to love yourself, but it is essential to make sure that others can love you too. Fall in love with your body, shortcomings, virtues, with everything that stirs passion in you, with the way you smile and the way you walk through life.

Love yourself sincerely

Loving yourself is a fundamental part of our sense of well-being. It ensures that others can also love us and that we can enjoy and be happy. Sometimes it’s complicated, because we criticize ourselves and become our own worst enemy.

Self-confidence is the judgmental perception we have of ourselves. In other words, self-confidence is how we see and value ourselves. According to the Argentine psychologist Walter Riso, self-confidence is made up of four fundamental elements. These elements are as follows:

• Self concept: what you think of yourself.

• Self image: how much you like yourself.
• Self-reinforcement: how much you reward yourself.
• Self-motivation: how much confidence you have in yourself.

To strengthen these four elements that make up our self-confidence, to live with ourselves and be happier, we recommend a few things you could do to appreciate all the good that is in you.

Don’t compare yourself

During our adolescence, we begin to analyze our body in detail, down to the last pore. And the result of this is that there is always too much or too little of something. We criticize the color of our hair, legs and teeth. We necessarily want to find our shortcomings. In addition, we constantly compare ourselves to other people. People who, in our eyes, are more attractive than us, making us feel bad about ourselves.

Comparisons can be very damaging because everyone’s idea of ​​beauty is very different. It’s completely subjective. What is beautiful for one person, can be very ugly for another and vice versa. Therefore, comparisons are completely useless in this regard.

Discover and emphasize those things you love about yourself. Dress how you want and not how others expect you to dress. As long as you feel good about it, that’s what matters. There will always be someone prettier or uglier than you. But what do you care? You have unique qualities that no one else has. Discover these and the true potential they have.

Make up your own idea of ​​beauty

The idea of ​​beauty is not only subjective, it also depends to a great extent on the environment. For example, a while ago a full, white woman with red lips was seen as very beautiful, while the current idea of ​​beauty is radically different.

That’s why it’s best to just create your own idea of ​​beauty. Walter Riso indicates that this is the most healthy statement to apply:

“You can decide for yourself what your version of beauty is. It’s not easy, but it’s worth a try. When you want to dress yourself well, you don’t have to follow the latest fads or conform to the norm. Likewise, to enjoy yourself, you don’t have to rely on outside ideas. You don’t have to be like anyone else at all. There are no theoretical and scientific reasons to make one form of beauty superior to another. What is therefore especially important is not to be beautiful, but to be yourself.”

Reward yourself

When our partner doesn’t take care of us, ask us how we’re doing, don’t call us, or express their interest in us, we may begin to question how much he really cares about us.

If you don’t reward yourself, don’t make time for yourself and don’t show affection towards yourself, you will have no or insufficient self-confidence at all. Self-love is basically not very different from love for other people.

Therefore, take care of your body and mind, do things you enjoy, things you enjoy. Smile and go out the door to share that smile with the world. If you like going to the cinema, just go. If you like cycling, go for a ride. If you like reading, buy some books and read them.

Get rid of oppressive beliefs

According to Walter Riso, these are the repressive beliefs that keep us from strengthening our self-confidence:

• The cult of habit. This cult worships a range of behaviors that are considered normal and that we should all have. However, this kind of behavior will never allow us to be innovative and change.
• The cult of rationalization. This cult will turn you into a robot, accustomed only to judging its feelings to see if they are appropriate. Some things are not made to think about, but simply to experience.
• The cult of self-control. The cult where you learn to control every feeling and every emotion. Of course, you need a balanced self-control to avoid destructive behavior, but you should try not to strive to completely control all your feelings and emotions.

• The cult of humility. This cult teaches you not to value your successes and efforts. It’s not about bragging about your achievements, but about acknowledging your potential, without excuses or guilt. So that you can be realistic, see your qualities and appreciate your efforts.

Let others love you

In our current society, everything goes by way too fast. We are all very independent, but we just need to stop and let ourselves be loved. If you don’t feel well, have someone listen to you and take care of you. If you are concerned about something, share it with someone and let them hug and kiss you. Feel the love in every gesture, every look and let others love you.