How To Deal With Hotheads

For hotheads, being in a bad mood is almost natural. We all have bad moments when we find it hard to contain ourselves in front of others, but there are also people who have moments like this all the time. If a bad mood occurs every now and then, we tend to tolerate it and be compassionate, but when it becomes commonplace and we don’t cut it off in time, it can become contagious.

What do we do when a person is constantly angry or in a bad mood? Should we tolerate this toxic behavior? Most people will tell you that there is no reason why you should take other people’s bad moods. If you don’t dump your garbage in someone else’s house, then the other person doesn’t have the right to spread theirs in your house either.

However, we cannot always avoid hotheads and their bad moods. Simply swallowing everything from them and getting infected by their bad mood is not a solution. Below we’ll look at some strategies for dealing with hotheads and their strong temperaments.

How do you deal with hotheads?

Your mood should not be determined by others. You should know how to control your emotions. However, some people are very sensitive to the mood of others. For this group of people, the advice we give in this article will be especially important. It will also help them to better control their emotions.

Consider your options

There may be people around you who always seem to feel the need to dominate the emotional mood. Hotheads need everyone to be just as angry and bad-tempered as they are. They feel better about themselves when they know they have the power to dominate the mood of others.

It’s not easy to avoid these types of people. After all, they are physically there. Disappearing is not an option either. What can you do to prevent their attitude from having an impact on you? For starters, you should try to identify the changes in mood so that you know exactly how they affect you.

Once you have identified how you are affected by another person’s mood and how it affects you, it is good to consider what options you have for avoiding that person. Can you keep him at a distance? Can you do anything to provoke his bad mood as little as possible?

Don’t play their game

When you are with someone who is extremely temperamental, who gets angry easily, don’t play his game, try not to interfere or try to calm him down. If you do, you will be easy prey for this type of person, an easy way to vent their anger and spread their poison.

If you can’t avoid this person, try to avoid getting his words to hit you, just as you would try to dodge a blow. Try to bounce his words off you and make them fly out of your force field, like a ball hitting the post and rolling off the field. Maybe the other person will go get the ball and try to throw it at you again, but it’s up to you to hold out longer. Remember: the persistent always wins.

Try to discover certain standard statements or ways of acting to distract him or to react without playing the game. Pretend you’re crazy or swallow your words. You know that he will never admit that you are right and that he will always strive to have the upper hand. If you don’t play, no one will win or lose.

Don’t give them a cookie of their own dough

If we spend a lot of time with people who get angry easily, we may be tempted to give them a shot of our own, only to return the same to them in revenge. But why keep nurturing that attitude?

Stop and think. If you behave like that tantrum, you will not only feed his bad mood, but also reinforce his nasty behavior. That is, you will validate what he does. In effect, you are telling him that he can dump his dirt on you.

Fight back with kindness and good humor

Kindness and good humor are like anti-aircraft missiles whose mission is to fail the enemy’s attack. The bombs are destroyed before they even hit the ground. Being friendly and good humored can infect the other person or at least make it clear to him that he can knock elsewhere with his bad temper.

Downplaying things, showing an optimistic attitude, or approaching the subject from a friendly perspective rather than “like a mirror” will make it clear to the other person that you won’t get carried away. It will tell him that you will not allow him to take his anger out on you. If the other person still needs to talk to you or use you as an outlet, they will have to do so in a way that won’t hurt you.